Feb 4, 2009

Karma

Seriously...do you ever have times in your life when you feel like everything you touch turns to dook?

This wedding date, 4/11...is the FOURTH date we have set. The first date we set, my mother decided to almost die due to not taking her thyroid meds and seriously was almost comatose for several days before they figured out the problem, and was in the hospital for a week while they brought her back from the brink. Not the easiest thing to do, but she made it. The second date we set, HIS mother decided to throw a shower-of the pulmonary embolism variety. Hospitalization with a placement of a basket in her vena cava to catch any wayward clots before they hit her heart or brain and getting her regulated on anti-coagulants kinda put a kink in THOSE plans. She also pulled through, but still gets clots in spite of the Coumadin. Thank God for that little basket. The third date was set for Labor Day Weekend of 2005. Remember anything exciting happening around that time? A bitch called KATRINA, perhaps? Yeah, ummmm....kinda hard to have a beach wedding when the beach is non-existent, along with everything else for miles in every direction. Obviously, the third time was NOT the charm.

We set this date because it's Easter weekend and the kids will be out of school Good Friday and the following Monday. We have traditionally spent Easter on the coast with Tim's parents, so it just seemed perfect. Talked to our pastor, and he said he would be tickled to come to the coast for the wedding-and we checked into having the ceremony and reception on a Biloxi Schooner, and wow, there is one available that evening for a 4 hour or 2.5 hour sunset cruise-the wedding we have talked about since the first time we met (Seriously) We even found the perfect ring, and it FIT, which never happens since I have fat fingers. We took it as a sign that it was THE one.

Since setting the date, the dishwasher has gone out, Cody has been sent to the Alternative School (for bringing a cell phone to school-twice), and I did my taxes-which is normally cause for celebration and would normally facilitate all the wedding plans we had made. However, the boys turned 17 last year, and are no longer qualified for the child tax credit. I OWE THE IRS. A. LOT. OF. MONEY. Needless to say, all of our plans, even down to the hors d'ouvres for the cruise, have been shot to hell.

I am REALLY bummed right now. I know Tim wants to make me an honest woman, but I think we should just cancel this crap and sneak over to Alabama one day without telling ANYONE, so Karma will just leave me the hell alone.

April 11. Hummmpph.

10 comments:

Alice said...

the boys wouldn't count as a dependent still, somehow? My parents and hubbies parents claimed us well into college....

I'm sorry...that blows.

Jen said...

GIRL! Yall deserve a wedding...You should DO IT anyway! And I am with Alice, why can't you still claim them? I was claimed well into college, too. So, me is confused! :)

Seriously, I really hope this works out for yall.

Susan said...

Don't let karma get in your way. All you need is your family, a preacher, and the man. The rest is fluff.

dhcoop said...

(((((((clucky)))))))

From the Doghouse said...

Sneak out and get hitched. Then get "married" after the fact, when it won't be as big of a deal, then maybe karma will leave you alone.

Alternative school for a cell phone?

Mrs.H said...

Sneak off to where ever you have to, just come back MARRIED.

FYI for all that asked about the dependent status: when your kids turn 17 they no longer qualify for the child tax CREDIT. They still qualify as a dependent, but the IRS thinks they are less expensive, so you don't get the tax credit.

Does no one at the IRS have high school seniors? Apparently NOT!!!

i'm black betty said...

i'm so sorry, honey. karma is a MFer sometimes. i'm praying for ya.

mayberry said...

That totally sucks. Let me know when you're in my area and I'll treat you to chips and salsa ok? It's not much but it usually cheers me up!

dhcoop said...

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cheapbychoice said...

I like the sneaking off plan. Remember the wedding is for couple's love to be "officially" recognized. The reception is just an excuse for your friends to party on your dime. Don't put it off get married ASAP!